/r/limerence/

r/limerence

93k members
r/limerence is a subreddit with 93k members. The most common kinds of discussions are pain & anger and advice requests, and the community frequently discusses limerence, obsession, lo, struggling, and feelings.
Limerence is a term invented by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov for her book "Love and Limerence", to describe the state of being madly in love or intensely infatuated when reciprocation is uncertain. This sub is a community of people who self-identify as being in the state of limerence and are looking for support and strategies to deal with it.

Popular Themes in r/limerence

#1
Pain & Anger
: "Why am I angry that my married coworker might be having a baby when I’m married too?"
18 posts
#2
Advice Requests
: "i need an actual advice."
15 posts

Popular Topics in r/limerence

#1

Limerence

: "What are your thoughts: Limerence as coping mechanism?"
68 posts
#2

Obsession

: "Limerence - romantic Obsession"
9 posts
#3

Lo

: "I felt like I betrayed my Lo"
8 posts
#4

Struggling

6 posts
#5

Feelings

6 posts
#6

Relationships

5 posts
#7

Love

: "Sometimes im sad i have never experimented romantic, reciprocated Love in my entire life... i thought i did, but it was just limerence!"
5 posts
#8

Hate

4 posts
#9

Support

3 posts
#10

Relationship

: "Does limerence impact your personal Relationships, like friendships? If so, how?"
3 posts

Flair Used in r/limerence

#1
Here To Vent
: "Meme Monday"
54 posts
#2
Question
: "Is limerence like drug addiction?"
47 posts
#3
Discussion
: "I wish it was that easy...."
38 posts
#4
No Judgment Please
: "Me trying to explain why I have pictures of my LO in my hidden folder"
34 posts
#5
My Testimony
: "Limerent for a coworker who reciprocated. Cheated our spouses. Now it‘s over."
18 posts
#6
META
: "Only if you knew..."
4 posts
#7
Topic Update
: "coworker I have been limerent over for three years asked me out the moment he found out I handed my notice"
4 posts

Member Growth in r/limerence

Yearly
+23k members(32.9%)

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Last updated: August 14, 2026