r/limerence is a subreddit with 94k members. The most common kinds of discussions are pain & anger and advice requests, and the community frequently discusses limerence, relationships, feelings, obsession, and hate.
Limerence is a term invented by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov for her book "Love and Limerence", to describe the state of being madly in love or intensely infatuated when reciprocation is uncertain. This sub is a community of people who self-identify as being in the state of limerence and are looking for support and strategies to deal with it.
Popular Themes in r/limerence
#1
Pain & Anger
: "I genuinely can't take this anymore"
9 posts
#2
Advice Requests
: "“Smitten” by Dr. Tom Bellamy- the best resource for dealing with debilitating limerence that I’ve come across"
2 posts
Popular Topics in r/limerence
#1
Limerence
44 posts
#2
Relationships
5 posts
#3
Feelings
5 posts
#4
Obsession
5 posts
#5
Hate
: "I Hate when people tell me to stop thinking of my LO"
4 posts
#6
Struggling
: "Really Struggling today"
4 posts
#7
Support
3 posts
#8
Lo
: "I HATE when people tell me to stop thinking of my Lo"
2 posts
#9
Recovery
2 posts
#10
Intrusive Thoughts
2 posts
Flair Used in r/limerence
#1
Discussion
: "The “cure” to limerence is self esteem and self love"
58 posts
#2
Here To Vent
: "Daily reminder that our LO doesn't think or even remember us, their lives are exactly the same since we went NC and this won't change"
52 posts
#3
Question
: "How is Limerence not just a normal crush"
38 posts
#4
No Judgment Please
: "*sigh*"
24 posts
#5
My Testimony
: "He will never like me. Acceptance."
15 posts
#6
META
: "To the next LO we go"
8 posts
#7
Topic Update
: "“Smitten” by Dr. Tom Bellamy- the best resource for dealing with debilitating limerence that I’ve come across"
4 posts
Member Growth in r/limerence
Yearly
+24k members(33.5%)
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Last updated: September 5, 2026