r/limerence is a subreddit with 89k members. The most common kinds of discussions are pain & anger and advice requests, and the community frequently discusses limerence, lo, relationship, hard time, and obsession.
Limerence is a term invented by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov for her book "Love and Limerence", to describe the state of being madly in love or intensely infatuated when reciprocation is uncertain. This sub is a community of people who self-identify as being in the state of limerence and are looking for support and strategies to deal with it.
Popular Themes in r/limerence
#1
Pain & Anger
: "I stayed emotionally attached to a girl for 5 years without ever really having her"
21 posts
#2
Advice Requests
: "How do I get over limerence as a married woman?"
9 posts
Popular Topics in r/limerence
#1
Limerence
: "Ok so like… is there a subreddit for us who have actual Limerence?"
345 posts
#2
Lo
: "For those of you who want to be with your Lo: do not do it."
44 posts
#3
Relationship
: "I finally got an obsession that wasn't a person for the first time in years"
37 posts
#4
Hard Time
: "Things I wish I had known before"
30 posts
#5
Obsession
: "Watching Obsession (2026) was helpful in seeing myself in third person"
27 posts
#6
Struggling
23 posts
#7
Hate
18 posts
#8
Emotions
: "I'm tired of this cycle"
18 posts
#9
No Contact
: "Just try No Contact"
15 posts
#10
Worst
13 posts
Flair Used in r/limerence
#1
Here To Vent
: "I confessed my feelings yesterday"
61 posts
#2
Discussion
: "Monday meme shamelessly stolen (12AM means automatically generated)"
49 posts
#3
Question
: "Most embarrassing thing you’ve ever done…"
35 posts
#4
My Testimony
: "For those of you who want to be with your LO: do not do it."
28 posts
#5
No Judgment Please
: "I’ve reached a new level of pathetic…"
21 posts
#6
Topic Update
: "Just some kind words for anyone who is struggling ♡"
3 posts
#7
META
: "We need a "I'm Spiraling and Might do Something Stupid" Megathread"
3 posts
Member Growth in r/limerence
Yearly
+22k members(32.0%)
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Last updated: June 15, 2026