r/limerence is a subreddit with 90k members. The most common kinds of discussions are pain & anger and advice requests, and the community frequently discusses limerence, lo, limerance, love, and struggling.
Limerence is a term invented by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov for her book "Love and Limerence", to describe the state of being madly in love or intensely infatuated when reciprocation is uncertain. This sub is a community of people who self-identify as being in the state of limerence and are looking for support and strategies to deal with it.
Popular Themes in r/limerence
#1
Pain & Anger
: "Last year I posted here saying I was leaving my partner of 10 years because of (not FOR) my LO. Everyone told me I’d regret it. I did it anyways and have been so much happier and I didn’t even end up with LO and in fact I broke my limerence."
33 posts
#2
Advice Requests
: "I decided not to go through with having sex with LO even though it was tempting. He said he understood and we could be just friends but I never heard from him again. Confirmation that I made the right decision!"
15 posts
Popular Topics in r/limerence
#1
Limerence
: "Last year I posted here saying I was leaving my partner of 10 years because of (not FOR) my LO. Everyone told me I’d regret it. I did it anyways and have been so much happier and I didn’t even end up with LO and in fact I broke my Limerence."
244 posts
#2
Lo
: "Left Long term partner for a work Lo"
24 posts
#3
Limerance
: "Left long term partner for a work LO"
18 posts
#4
Love
: "How do you tell the difference between Love and limerence when you've never felt secure?"
16 posts
#5
Struggling
: "Struggling really hard"
15 posts
#6
Relationship
: "friends, please dont let limerence lay waste to your Relationships"
15 posts
#7
Obsession
: "How do I break an unhealthy Obsession with a celebrity/fictional character?"
11 posts
#8
Relationships
7 posts
#9
Moving On
: "Moving On"
7 posts
#10
Nc
: "LimereNce and Art. Does it help, or does it make it worse?"
7 posts
Flair Used in r/limerence
#1
Here To Vent
: "When you learn they’re a narcissist"
55 posts
#2
Discussion
: "I have never heard the way I felt about my LO described more accurately"
51 posts
#3
No Judgment Please
: "I need to share something that will put you off stalking their instagram page"
33 posts
#4
Question
: "What is it about us that makes us act in this way?"
30 posts
#5
My Testimony
: "Last year I posted here saying I was leaving my partner of 10 years because of (not FOR) my LO. Everyone told me I’d regret it. I did it anyways and have been so much happier and I didn’t even end up with LO and in fact I broke my limerence."
23 posts
#6
Topic Update
: "I'm great at lying to myself"
7 posts
#7
META
: "Giving up when you are older, knowing, yes absolutely certainly knowing, that there is no one else out there"
1 post
Member Growth in r/limerence
Yearly
+22k members(32.5%)
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Last updated: June 29, 2026