r/AvoidantAttachment is a subreddit with 61k members. The most common kinds of discussions are advice requests and pain & anger, and the community frequently discusses attachment, avoidant, meme, avoidant attachment, and hate.
To post here, read the pinned post, do NOT message the moderators. To keep this a safe space for avoidant attachers, this subreddit is strictly moderated. Please review the subreddit rules prior to participating to ensure this subreddit remains on topic. For those who do not have an avoidant attachment style looking for answers, there is a wealth of information for you available by keyword searching "FAQ." Non-avoidant participation is limited and enforced. Please respect our space.
Popular Themes in r/AvoidantAttachment
#1
Advice Requests
: "How does avoidance "feel" in your body?"
36 posts
#2
Pain & Anger
: "i find non-self-reliant people incredibly frustrating"
28 posts
#3
Solution Requests
: "Relationship Management Systems & Apps"
1 post
#4
Money Talk
: "Anyone else feel stingy with their money/chores with their partner?"
1 post
Popular Topics in r/AvoidantAttachment
#1
Attachment
: "Realistically, if your Attachment issues are severe are they ever going to get better (losing hope)"
30 posts
#2
Avoidant
: "Input wanted — Avoidants, what has helped you heal?"
22 posts
#3
Meme
18 posts
#4
Avoidant Attachment
: "My mother, the one who gave me Avoidant Attachment."
14 posts
#5
Hate
14 posts
#6
Weekly Post
12 posts
#7
Relationship
: "Losing Desire For Intimacy After 3 Months in Every Relationship"
11 posts
#8
Feeling
10 posts
#9
Relationships
: "Are Long-distance Relationships better for you?"
9 posts
#10
Weekly Rant
: "Weekly Rant/Vent Thread"
9 posts
Flair Used in r/AvoidantAttachment
#1
Seeking Support - Advice is OK✅
: "Anyone else get super grossed out by neediness? how do you deal with it?"
116 posts
#2
Self Discovery
: "What did you notice changed when you began leaning secure?"
21 posts
#3
Rant/Vent
: "i find non-self-reliant people incredibly frustrating"
12 posts
#4
General Question About Avoidant Attachment
: "Curious if the idea of “you wouldn’t be avoidant with the right person” rings true to anyone"
9 posts
#5
Attachment Theory Material
: "Breaking News: Anxious and Avoidant styles are equally problematic"
7 posts
#6
Relationship Advice
: "When is it real or avoidant tendencies?"
5 posts
#7
Moderator Post
: "This is why this group has rules and standards that the other groups do not have to have."
4 posts
#8
Hypothesis
: "The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment."
4 posts
#9
Humor
: "Decided it’s time to call out blatant misrepresentation regarding our sub"
3 posts
#10
General Question About Attachment Theory
: "Is it just me or is "date secure people" a bad idea?"
3 posts
Member Growth in r/AvoidantAttachment
Yearly
+15k members(32.1%)
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Last updated: August 14, 2026