r/AvoidantAttachment is a subreddit with 62k members. The most common kinds of discussions are pain & anger and advice requests, and the community frequently discusses avoidant, attachment, hate, meme, and feeling.
To post here, read the pinned post, do NOT message the moderators. To keep this a safe space for avoidant attachers, this subreddit is strictly moderated. Please review the subreddit rules prior to participating to ensure this subreddit remains on topic. For those who do not have an avoidant attachment style looking for answers, there is a wealth of information for you available by keyword searching "FAQ." Non-avoidant participation is limited and enforced. Please respect our space.
Popular Themes in r/AvoidantAttachment
#1
Pain & Anger
: "i find non-self-reliant people incredibly frustrating"
11 posts
#2
Advice Requests
: "How often do you all think of breaking up with your partner?"
3 posts
#3
Solution Requests
: "Relationship Management Systems & Apps"
1 post
#4
Money Talk
: "Anyone else feel stingy with their money/chores with their partner?"
1 post
Popular Topics in r/AvoidantAttachment
#1
Avoidant
: "Avoidant Tendencies Towards Meds"
24 posts
#2
Attachment
16 posts
#3
Hate
14 posts
#4
Meme
11 posts
#5
Feeling
10 posts
#6
Relationship
: "He broke up with me, I feel like all my efforts have been wasted"
10 posts
#7
Rant
10 posts
#8
Wins
7 posts
#9
Struggling
6 posts
#10
Tired
6 posts
Flair Used in r/AvoidantAttachment
#1
Seeking Support - Advice is OK✅
: "How is it that intimacy doesn’t terrify secure people, or non avoidants?"
24 posts
#2
General Question About Avoidant Attachment
: "Curious if the idea of “you wouldn’t be avoidant with the right person” rings true to anyone"
5 posts
#3
Self Discovery
: "Low Distress Tolerance for OTHER People's Distress - Thoughts?"
5 posts
#4
Rant/Vent
: "i find non-self-reliant people incredibly frustrating"
4 posts
#5
Humor
: "It’s crazy how we mimic the attitude we fear the most?"
3 posts
#6
Attachment Theory Material
: "Resources"
2 posts
#7
Poll
: "How often do you all think of breaking up with your partner?"
1 post
Member Growth in r/AvoidantAttachment
Yearly
+15k members(30.8%)
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Last updated: October 1, 2026