r/AvoidantAttachment is a subreddit with 60k members. The most common kinds of discussions are advice requests and pain & anger, and the community frequently discusses avoidant, attachment, hate, relationship, and feeling.
To post here, read the pinned post, do NOT message the moderators. To keep this a safe space for avoidant attachers, this subreddit is strictly moderated. Please review the subreddit rules prior to participating to ensure this subreddit remains on topic. For those who do not have an avoidant attachment style looking for answers, there is a wealth of information for you available by keyword searching "FAQ." Non-avoidant participation is limited and enforced. Please respect our space.
Popular Themes in r/AvoidantAttachment
#1
Advice Requests
: "How does avoidance "feel" in your body?"
26 posts
#2
Pain & Anger
: "Anyone else get super grossed out by neediness? how do you deal with it?"
22 posts
#3
Solution Requests
: "Relationship Management Systems & Apps"
1 post
#4
Money Talk
: "Anyone else feel stingy with their money/chores with their partner?"
1 post
Popular Topics in r/AvoidantAttachment
#1
Avoidant
: "Input wanted — Avoidants, what has helped you heal?"
22 posts
#2
Attachment
: "Realistically, if your Attachment issues are severe are they ever going to get better (losing hope)"
17 posts
#3
Hate
14 posts
#4
Relationship
: "Another Relationship with no room for me to be vulnerable"
12 posts
#5
Feeling
10 posts
#6
Wins And Successes
: "Weekly Post - ✨Wins And Successes ✨"
9 posts
#7
Weekly Rant
: "Weekly Rant/Vent Thread"
8 posts
#8
Meme Monday
: "🎉Meme Monday🎉"
7 posts
#9
Struggling
6 posts
#10
Tired
6 posts
Flair Used in r/AvoidantAttachment
#1
Seeking Support - Advice is OK✅
: "Anyone else get super grossed out by neediness? how do you deal with it?"
83 posts
#2
Self Discovery
: "What did you notice changed when you began leaning secure?"
15 posts
#3
Rant/Vent
: "I like when people have a lot going on for themselves."
9 posts
#4
General Question About Avoidant Attachment
: "Curious if the idea of “you wouldn’t be avoidant with the right person” rings true to anyone"
7 posts
#5
Relationship Advice
: "When is it real or avoidant tendencies?"
6 posts
#6
Hypothesis
: "The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment."
4 posts
#7
Moderator Post
: "This is why this group has rules and standards that the other groups do not have to have."
3 posts
#8
Humor
: "Decided it’s time to call out blatant misrepresentation regarding our sub"
3 posts
#9
General Question About Attachment Theory
: "Is it just me or is "date secure people" a bad idea?"
2 posts
#10
Attachment Theory Material
: "Resources"
2 posts
Member Growth in r/AvoidantAttachment
Yearly
+15k members(32.8%)
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Last updated: July 21, 2026