r/AvoidantBreakUps is a subreddit with 26k members. The community frequently discusses avoidant, breakup, struggling, relationship, and ex, and the most common flair used is vent/rant, personal growth, fa breakup, da breakup, and avoidant advice requested.
A support community for those recovering from a breakup with a Fearful or Dismissive Avoidant
Popular Topics in r/AvoidantBreakUps
#1
Avoidant
166 posts
#2
Breakup
136 posts
#3
Struggling
72 posts
#4
Relationship
57 posts
#5
Ex
40 posts
#6
Advice
29 posts
#7
Discard
23 posts
#8
Moveon
16 posts
#9
Feelings
16 posts
#10
Love
14 posts
Flair Used in r/AvoidantBreakUps
#1
Vent/Rant
: "Most avoidants are not scared of being loved, they are scared of doing their part forever"
53 posts
#2
Personal Growth
: "3 Months No Contact With My Avoidant Ex: It Really Does Get Better"
15 posts
#3
FA Breakup
: "Hurtful truths to accept after avoidant discard."
12 posts
#4
DA Breakup
: "Did this hurt anyone else?"
8 posts
#5
Avoidant Advice Requested
: "Common themes in Avoidant behavior. Please add to the list!"
6 posts
#6
Later Stage Healing - Your Own Inner Work
: "The Neuroscience of Avoidant Deactivation: How "The Chimp Paradox" Explains Flaw-Finding, the Push-Pull Cycle & Sudden Discards (reading this book was eye opening)"
3 posts
#7
AMA
: "Finally slowed down long enough to see that I (31M) am a FA and have done the "avoidant discard" to maybe every single one of my exes."
3 posts
#8
DA Breakup - LTR 1 Year+
: "Why did I text him"
1 post
#9
Poll
: "what is your opinion on the “they always come back” theory?"
1 post
Member Growth in r/AvoidantBreakUps
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+21k members(357.3%)
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Last updated: June 27, 2026