r/Fencesitter is a subreddit with 91k members. The community frequently discusses fencesitter, decision, kids, fencesitting, and relationship, and the most common flair used is reflections, questions, anxiety, childfree, and parenting.
A safe place for those who aren't sure whether they want to have kids, or not. Post and share stories for both sides, questions you may have, and anything else you can think of (applicable to the subject at hand).
Popular Topics in r/Fencesitter
#1
Fencesitter
50 posts
#2
Decision
34 posts
#3
Kids
22 posts
#4
Fencesitting
18 posts
#5
Relationship
12 posts
#6
Children
11 posts
#7
Partner
11 posts
#8
Hate
9 posts
#9
Feelings
9 posts
#10
Fence
8 posts
Flair Used in r/Fencesitter
#1
Reflections
: "Fence sitting turned out to be the greatest gift"
27 posts
#2
Questions
: "I genuinely don’t understand the “I can’t even go to the toilet” experience"
23 posts
#3
Anxiety
: "I finally got off the fence... and then back on thanks to climate change and AI"
19 posts
#4
Childfree
: "Four years later: an update"
12 posts
#5
Parenting
: "A lurker point of view, off the fence and 6 months in"
7 posts
#6
Q&A
: "Previous fencesitter for a decade, now mother of 2. AMA"
6 posts
#7
AMA
: "Off the fence: From anti-natalist to having a planned one year old."
3 posts
#8
Reading
: "Finally reading The Baby Decision and have already "failed" the chapter 1 exercise"
1 post
Member Growth in r/Fencesitter
Yearly
+16k members(20.8%)
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Last updated: September 6, 2026