r/Fencesitter is a subreddit with 86k members. The community frequently discusses fencesitter, decision, kids, fencesitting, and relationship, and the most common flair used is reflections, questions, anxiety, parenting, and childfree.
A safe place for those who aren't sure whether they want to have kids, or not. Post and share stories for both sides, questions you may have, and anything else you can think of (applicable to the subject at hand).
Popular Topics in r/Fencesitter
#1
Fencesitter
50 posts
#2
Decision
34 posts
#3
Kids
22 posts
#4
Fencesitting
18 posts
#5
Relationship
12 posts
#6
Children
11 posts
#7
Partner
11 posts
#8
Hate
9 posts
#9
Feelings
9 posts
#10
Fence
8 posts
Flair Used in r/Fencesitter
#1
Reflections
: "Tales from the other side: Nearly 3 years later"
31 posts
#2
Questions
: "Does anyone else love their spouse but think their spouse wouldn’t pull their weight, which is why you aren’t sure about kids?"
22 posts
#3
Anxiety
: "[Rant] Finally got off the fence and it’s not going well"
14 posts
#4
Parenting
: "The day to day of parenting seems miserable"
7 posts
#5
Childfree
: "I love kids, but I’ve decided the journey isn’t for me."
5 posts
#6
Q&A
: "Former fence sitter now with a 3 month old -AMA"
4 posts
#7
Pregnancy
: "Advice for past me: don’t FAFO"
2 posts
#8
AMA
: "Former fence-sitter now 3.5 months postpartum. AMA"
1 post
#9
Reading
: "The Baby Decision exercises with partner who is not a fencesitter"
1 post
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Yearly
+12k members(15.8%)
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Last updated: June 16, 2026