r/AsOneAfterInfidelity is a subreddit with 126k members. The most common kinds of discussions are advice requests and pain & anger, and the community frequently discusses struggling, reconciliation, affair, infidelity, and betrayal, and they frequently recommend/review books/podcasts, medication, and books.
AOAI is an online Peer Support Group and safe space for individuals (betrayed or wayward) who are actively attempting to reconcile after infidelity. _Peer Support is sharing your own personal experiences_, which provides emotional and practical support between people who are reconciling after infidelity. (Observers are strictly limited to messages of support only.) Kindly read the rules before participating.
Popular Themes in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity
#1
Advice Requests
: "How do I keep moving forward with reconciliation when my WW says she isn’t sure she wants the marriage and doesn’t have “closure” with AP?"
13 posts
#2
Pain & Anger
: "I want WP to suffer."
9 posts
Popular Topics in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity
#1
Struggling
25 posts
#2
Reconciliation
: "How do I keep moving forward with Reconciliation when my WW says she isn’t sure she wants the marriage and doesn’t have “closure” with AP?"
13 posts
#3
Affair
: "Post-Affair update from a wayward"
11 posts
#4
Infidelity
: "Infidelity realities after 10 years"
9 posts
#5
Betrayal
8 posts
#6
Cheating
: "Infidelity realities after 10 years"
8 posts
#7
Looking For
7 posts
#8
Dday
: "Two Years Since Dday: From the depths of it to quiet calm stability"
7 posts
#9
Support
: "Just need Support"
4 posts
#10
Trust
3 posts
Products Discussed in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity
Books/podcasts
10 reviews
#1
Linda J MacDonald
5.0★ from 2 reviews
#2
Shirley Glass
5.0★ from 2 reviews
#3
Dr Kathy Nickerson
5.0★ from 1 review
Medication
3 reviews
#1
Fluoxetine
2.0★ from 1 review
#2
Sertraline
4.0★ from 1 review
#3
Venlafaxine
3.0★ from 1 review
Books
2 reviews
#1
Shirley Glass
4.0★ from 1 review
#2
Susan Johnson
5.0★ from 1 review
Flair Used in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity
#1
Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed)
: "If they want to, they will."
92 posts
#2
Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice.
: "First couples therapy session was brutal"
40 posts
#3
No advice, just support.
: ""This is so much worse than someone dying""
39 posts
#4
Betrayed Perspective Only
: "If I didn’t have my daughter…"
21 posts
#5
Farewell, R is over
: "He did it again, that's it, right?"
4 posts
#6
Wayward Perspective Only
: "What i struggle with most even now so many years later."
3 posts
Member Growth in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity
Yearly
+18k members(17.2%)
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Last updated: September 13, 2026