/r/AsOneAfterInfidelity/

r/AsOneAfterInfidelity

121k members
r/AsOneAfterInfidelity is a subreddit with 121k members. The most common kinds of discussions are pain & anger and advice requests, and the community frequently discusses struggling, reconciliation, betrayal, cheating, and healing, and they frequently recommend/review books/podcasts, medication, and books.
AOAI is an online Peer Support Group and safe space for individuals (betrayed or wayward) who are actively attempting to reconcile after infidelity. _Peer Support is sharing your own personal experiences_, which provides emotional and practical support between people who are reconciling after infidelity. (Observers are strictly limited to messages of support only.) Kindly read the rules before participating.

Popular Themes in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity

#1
Pain & Anger
: "I just miss my husband"
28 posts
#2
Advice Requests
: "Literally how do people get past this… starting to feel like I’m giving up…"
22 posts
#3
Solution Requests
: "I need help with reconciliation tactics."
1 post

Popular Topics in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity

#1

Struggling

: "I posted few pictures from our family trip but I didn't post any with my WH on them"
91 posts
#2

Reconciliation

: "Seeking advice after 3 years into Reconciliation."
65 posts
#3

Betrayal

: "I posted few pictures from our family trip but I didn't post any with my WH on them"
53 posts
#4

Cheating

: "I posted few pictures from our family trip but I didn't post any with my WH on them"
50 posts
#5

Healing

: "I posted few pictures from our family trip but I didn't post any with my WH on them"
49 posts
#6

Struggle

: "I posted few pictures from our family trip but I didn't post any with my WH on them"
45 posts
#7

Hard Time

27 posts
#8

Affair

: "After His Affair, I Kissed Someone Else"
25 posts
#9

Trust

: "Struggling to see how I can Trust again after heavy and long TT. Polygraph experience wanted"
17 posts
#10

Relationship

: "I posted few pictures from our family trip but I didn't post any with my WH on them"
17 posts

Products Discussed in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity

Books/podcasts

10 reviews
#1
Linda J MacDonald
5.0 from 2 reviews
#2
Shirley Glass
5.0 from 2 reviews
#3
Dr Kathy Nickerson
5.0 from 1 review

Medication

3 reviews
#1
Fluoxetine
2.0 from 1 review
#2
Sertraline
4.0 from 1 review
#3
Venlafaxine
3.0 from 1 review

Books

2 reviews
#1
Shirley Glass
4.0 from 1 review
#2
Susan Johnson
5.0 from 1 review

Flair Used in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity

#1
Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed)
: "Staying takes a lot of strength."
62 posts
#2
No advice, just support.
: "I’m so tired of feeling like this…"
57 posts
#3
Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice.
: "WH Angry About Truth"
36 posts
#4
Betrayed Perspective Only
: "What do we do with the detachment?"
32 posts
#5
Wayward Perspective Only
: "WPs, is your love for your BP different now after your affair?"
11 posts
#6
Farewell, R is over
: "I failed"
1 post
#7
Announcement
: "Harassment"
1 post

Member Growth in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity

Yearly
+16k members(15.2%)

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Last updated: June 15, 2026