r/AsOneAfterInfidelity is a subreddit with 125k members. The most common kinds of discussions are pain & anger and advice requests, and the community frequently discusses struggling, reconciliation, affair, infidelity, and betrayal, and they frequently recommend/review books/podcasts, medication, and books.
AOAI is an online Peer Support Group and safe space for individuals (betrayed or wayward) who are actively attempting to reconcile after infidelity. _Peer Support is sharing your own personal experiences_, which provides emotional and practical support between people who are reconciling after infidelity. (Observers are strictly limited to messages of support only.) Kindly read the rules before participating.
Popular Themes in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity
#1
Pain & Anger
: "I want WP to suffer."
26 posts
#2
Advice Requests
: "How do you come to terms with nothing ever being the same again"
14 posts
Popular Topics in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity
#1
Struggling
: "Struggling with intense disgust and loss of respect. Does this pass?"
25 posts
#2
Reconciliation
: "How do I keep moving forward with Reconciliation when my WW says she isn’t sure she wants the marriage and doesn’t have “closure” with AP?"
13 posts
#3
Affair
: "Post-Affair update from a wayward"
11 posts
#4
Infidelity
: "Infidelity realities after 10 years"
9 posts
#5
Betrayal
8 posts
#6
Cheating
: "Infidelity realities after 10 years"
8 posts
#7
Looking For
7 posts
#8
Dday
: "Two Years Since Dday: From the depths of it to quiet calm stability"
7 posts
#9
Support
: "Just need Support"
4 posts
#10
Trust
3 posts
Products Discussed in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity
Books/podcasts
10 reviews
#1
Linda J MacDonald
5.0★ from 2 reviews
#2
Shirley Glass
5.0★ from 2 reviews
#3
Dr Kathy Nickerson
5.0★ from 1 review
Medication
3 reviews
#1
Fluoxetine
2.0★ from 1 review
#2
Sertraline
4.0★ from 1 review
#3
Venlafaxine
3.0★ from 1 review
Books
2 reviews
#1
Shirley Glass
4.0★ from 1 review
#2
Susan Johnson
5.0★ from 1 review
Flair Used in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity
#1
Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed)
: ""It was a mistake""
71 posts
#2
Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice.
: "First couples therapy session was brutal"
51 posts
#3
No advice, just support.
: "I want WP to suffer."
36 posts
#4
Betrayed Perspective Only
: "How do you come to terms with nothing ever being the same again"
26 posts
#5
Farewell, R is over
: "There are some things you can’t come back from."
8 posts
#6
Wayward Perspective Only
: "Why do waywards care if the BP wants to leave?"
7 posts
Member Growth in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity
Yearly
+18k members(16.9%)
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Last updated: September 6, 2026