r/DeadBedroomsOver30 is a subreddit with 4k members. The most common kinds of discussions are advice requests and pain & anger, and the community frequently discusses sex, relationship, communication, tragic tuesday, and masturbation.
This is an ADVICE SUB for people looking to RESOLVE their DeadBedrooms who are over 30 (and likely have kids). We appreciate ***brutal honesty, self-reflection, personal growth.***
We’re looking for multiple viewpoints to better understand the big picture. So ONCE YOU’VE SHARED YOUR TRUTH, YOUR TRUTH IS REPRESENTED; no need to shoot down other’s truths. Approach others' truths with CURIOSITY rather than disdain. Thanks
Popular Themes in r/DeadBedroomsOver30
#1
Advice Requests
: "Some things I learned in my time here (kind of long)"
19 posts
#2
Pain & Anger
: "Owning Rejections in a Dead Bedroom"
5 posts
Popular Topics in r/DeadBedroomsOver30
#1
Sex
: "Today I told my husband that I do not want Sex that does not feel good"
29 posts
#2
Relationship
: "Therapist says the issue in our Relationship is that my “cup is empty”"
20 posts
#3
Communication
: "Communicating without creating pressure"
12 posts
#4
Tragic Tuesday
8 posts
#5
Masturbation
: "Masturbation and how it relates to partnered sex (IME)"
7 posts
#6
Intimacy
: "TIN*: Some people really do not understand the relationship between pleasure and Intimacy"
6 posts
#7
Skills Tutorial
6 posts
#8
Therapy
: "Therapist says the issue in our relationship is that my “cup is empty”"
5 posts
#9
Emotions
: "TIN: He has the insights but struggling to implement them (HL tutorial)"
5 posts
#10
Curiosity
: "Curiosity prompt: so you stopped having bad sex - now what?"
5 posts
Flair Used in r/DeadBedroomsOver30
#1
Self Reflection
: "As a husband in dead bedroom now I ONLY give touch that feels good to me and learning I am not “too much”"
47 posts
#2
Curiosity Prompt
: "“My LL says she’s too tired for sex. But always on her phone.”"
45 posts
#3
Want Advice: GENTLE Truths
: "Today I told my husband that I do not want sex that does not feel good"
20 posts
#4
Want Advice: HARSH Truths
: "Communicating without creating pressure"
19 posts
#5
TIN - Today I Noticed
: "Recognizing HL Pressure"
15 posts
#6
Celebrating a WIN🏆 (support first, advice second)
: "My LL wife initiated sex this morning."
15 posts
#7
Book Quotes/Articles
: "Book quote: When partners can't agree on how much sex to have"
10 posts
#8
No Advice: Explaining my PAIN (HL)
: "I HATE being a HL as a woman."
9 posts
#9
LL Skills TUTORIAL
: "LL skills tutorial: She can force herself to do work stuff but not sex"
6 posts
#10
No Advice: Explaining my PAIN (LL)
: "I’m Tired"
5 posts
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Last updated: June 21, 2026