r/datingoverforty is a subreddit with 207k members. The most common kinds of discussions are advice requests and pain & anger, and the community frequently discusses dating, struggling, annoying, old, and tired, and they frequently recommend/review dating apps, dating app, and card games.
This is a place to ask questions in order to receive advice regarding your dating and relationships over 40 (not marriage or marriage-equivalent relationships); it is not a place to look for dates or mates. We intend to be positive about dating, sex, and relationships over 40, and that includes being positive or at least civil towards all genders and life stages.
Popular Themes in r/datingoverforty
#1
Advice Requests
: "How do I identify when someone has no intention of being there long term."
14 posts
#2
Pain & Anger
: "Well this is a first and it hurts"
3 posts
#3
Money Talk
: "Gambling, sports betting, and prediction markets"
1 post
Popular Topics in r/datingoverforty
#1
Dating
18 posts
#2
Struggling
15 posts
#3
Annoying
6 posts
#4
Old
5 posts
#5
Tired
4 posts
#6
Hate
4 posts
#7
Struggles
4 posts
#8
Insecurities
4 posts
#9
Relationship Decision
: "Could this be real?"
4 posts
#10
Apps
3 posts
Products Discussed in r/datingoverforty
Dating Apps
7 reviews
#1
Dating Apps
3.0★ from 2 reviews
#2
Hinge
4.0★ from 1 review
#3
Tinder
3.0★ from 1 review
Dating App
4 reviews
#1
Hinge
4.0★ from 1 review
#2
Bumble
4.0★ from 1 review
#3
eHarmony
4.0★ from 1 review
Card Games
3 reviews
#1
Monopoly
4.0★ from 1 review
#2
Egyptian Rat Screw
5.0★ from 1 review
#3
Codenames Duet
5.0★ from 1 review
Flair Used in r/datingoverforty
#1
Seeking Advice
: "Am I in the wrong for this? Or is he?"
17 posts
#2
Casual Conversation
: "The Hardest Thing At This Age"
12 posts
#3
Question
: "What makes you lose interest even when you initially liked someone?"
10 posts
#4
Discussion
: "If you're on the progressive side like I am, I autoswipe left on apolitical, moderate, conservative"
7 posts
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Last updated: September 20, 2026