r/datingoverforty is a subreddit with 199k members. The most common kinds of discussions are advice requests and pain & anger, and the community frequently discusses dating, struggling, annoying, age gap, and old, and they frequently recommend/review dating apps, dating app, and card games.
This is a place to discuss dating and dating relationships over 40 (not marriage or marriage-equivalent relationships); it is not a place to look for dates or mates. We intend to be positive about dating, sex, and relationships over 40, and that includes being positive or at least civil towards all genders and life stages.
Popular Themes in r/datingoverforty
#1
Advice Requests
: "41/f. Where to find single men?"
15 posts
#2
Pain & Anger
: "When your date bashes the opposite gender?"
10 posts
#3
Ideas
: "Hot take: asking for a 'spark' early is vague. Ask for one specific kind of closeness instead."
1 post
Popular Topics in r/datingoverforty
#1
Dating
: "How to build the confidence to meet people IRL"
27 posts
#2
Struggling
16 posts
#3
Annoying
6 posts
#4
Age Gap
: "Anyone else in their 40s feeling like they missed the memo on how to find a genuine connection?"
6 posts
#5
Old
5 posts
#6
Communication
: "Poor Communication. Is he a low effort or am I overreacting?"
5 posts
#7
Tired
4 posts
#8
Hate
4 posts
#9
Apps
4 posts
#10
Relationship
4 posts
Products Discussed in r/datingoverforty
Dating Apps
7 reviews
#1
Dating Apps
3.0★ from 2 reviews
#2
Hinge
4.0★ from 1 review
#3
Tinder
3.0★ from 1 review
Dating App
4 reviews
#1
Hinge
4.0★ from 1 review
#2
Bumble
4.0★ from 1 review
#3
eHarmony
4.0★ from 1 review
Card Games
3 reviews
#1
Monopoly
4.0★ from 1 review
#2
Egyptian Rat Screw
5.0★ from 1 review
#3
Codenames Duet
5.0★ from 1 review
Flair Used in r/datingoverforty
#1
Seeking Advice
: "When it gets comfortable they get disinterested"
32 posts
#2
Question
: "Is there a dating app for simple, laid back, poor people with no support group?"
25 posts
#3
Casual Conversation
: "What are you doing home on a Friday night? Why aren’t we out having fun ?"
22 posts
#4
Discussion
: "OLD and rejection"
17 posts
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Yearly
+44k members(28.2%)
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Last updated: July 25, 2026