r/Disorganized_Attach
21k members
r/Disorganized_Attach is a subreddit with 21k members. The most common kinds of discussions are pain & anger and advice requests, and the community frequently discusses avoidant, relationship, attachment, anxious, and breakup.
A safe space for those with the disorganized attachment (FA) style, also known as fearful avoidant or anxious-avoidant.
Popular Themes in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Pain & Anger
: "I'm a horrible person and I don't know how to change that"
20 posts
#2
Advice Requests
: "My thoughts and feelings as a FA"
18 posts
Popular Topics in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Avoidant
: "Clingy men bring out my Avoidant side and Avoidant men bring out my clingy side"
84 posts
#2
Relationship
: "Regret and sadness after breaking off a healthy Relationship"
72 posts
#3
Attachment
: "Gratitude for this Attachment style — It protected me"
65 posts
#4
Anxious
: "The painful truth about Anxious attachment"
43 posts
#5
Breakup
: "I can't be with my partner anymore"
30 posts
#6
Struggling
21 posts
#7
Feelings
: "I have a horrifying mechanism inside me. I fall in love, a trigger happens, my Feelings die, but I become dependent. Please help"
21 posts
#8
Fearful Avoidant
: "Fearful Avoidant or not the right partner?"
21 posts
#9
Attachment Style
: "Shocked to find out I'm a FA - is this why I chase avoidant men?"
18 posts
#10
Relationships
: "Differences with friendships and romantic Relationships"
13 posts
Flair Used in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Advice (Other than therapy)
: "Clingy men bring out my avoidant side and avoidant men bring out my clingy side"
79 posts
#2
Vent (FAs Only)
: "My thoughts and feelings as a FA"
53 posts
#3
FAs Only (User Flair Required)
: "Seeing the same posts by non-FAs over and over is exhausting"
28 posts
#4
CHANGE ME!
: "I unintentionally do love bombing"
21 posts
#5
Resources / Helpful Tips
: "Gratitude for this attachment style — It protected me"
6 posts
#6
Success Story
: "Making progress :)"
6 posts
#7
Trauma Dump
: "Fearful Avoidant"
4 posts
#8
Vent
: "I don’t know what to do anymore"
1 post
#9
Advice?
: "Limerence, attachment, and constantly feeling "alone""
1 post
Member Growth in r/Disorganized_Attach
Yearly
+9k members(68.3%)
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Last updated: June 15, 2026