r/Disorganized_Attach
23k members
r/Disorganized_Attach is a subreddit with 23k members. The most common kinds of discussions are advice requests and pain & anger, and the community frequently discusses struggling, attachment, avoidant, breakup, and relationship.
A safe space for those with the disorganized attachment (FA) style, also known as fearful avoidant or anxious-avoidant.
Popular Themes in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Advice Requests
: "[If you relate: I need an advice from you. A little part of my insight tonight]"
11 posts
#2
Pain & Anger
: "Does anyone else feel almost disgusted by being emotionally close to people, even when you trust them?"
4 posts
#3
Solution Requests
: "Does anyone use the app insight timer ?"
1 post
Popular Topics in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Struggling
13 posts
#2
Attachment
6 posts
#3
Avoidant
6 posts
#4
Breakup
5 posts
#5
Relationship
5 posts
#6
Worst
4 posts
#7
Attachment Style
4 posts
#8
Fa
4 posts
#9
Anxious
2 posts
#10
Friendship
2 posts
Flair Used in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Advice (Other than therapy)
: "Does anyone else feel almost disgusted by being emotionally close to people, even when you trust them?"
86 posts
#2
FAs Only (User Flair Required)
: "Ok but HOW do you sit with your feelings?"
20 posts
#3
Vent (FAs Only)
: "Being FA is genuinely so lonely"
17 posts
#4
CHANGE ME!
: "Object permanence- nothing changes but I become convinced they’ve changed their mind?"
17 posts
#5
Resources / Helpful Tips
: "The feeling that nothing is enough"
17 posts
#6
Trauma Dump
: "Neurodivergence and becoming a FA"
13 posts
#7
Success Story
: "My partner said he only stays away when I'm not calm. He meant it"
3 posts
#8
Advice/experience
: "Push/Pull Dynamics, Sabotaging Relationships & Wanting to Be Forgiven"
1 post
#9
HELP!
: "I met someone new and something got triggered inside me"
1 post
Member Growth in r/Disorganized_Attach
Yearly
+9k members(61.8%)
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Last updated: September 3, 2026