r/Disorganized_Attach
23k members
r/Disorganized_Attach is a subreddit with 23k members. The most common kinds of discussions are advice requests and pain & anger, and the community frequently discusses struggling, attachment, breakup, relationship, and avoidant.
A safe space for those with the disorganized attachment (FA) style, also known as fearful avoidant or anxious-avoidant.
Popular Themes in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Advice Requests
: "How do I know if I truly need to end a relationship or if I'm just deactivating?"
17 posts
#2
Pain & Anger
: "I feel broken"
5 posts
Popular Topics in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Struggling
13 posts
#2
Attachment
6 posts
#3
Breakup
5 posts
#4
Relationship
5 posts
#5
Avoidant
4 posts
#6
Attachment Style
3 posts
#7
Anxious
2 posts
#8
Friendship
2 posts
#9
Healing
2 posts
#10
Contact
1 post
Flair Used in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Advice (Other than therapy)
: "How do I know if I truly need to end a relationship or if I'm just deactivating?"
51 posts
#2
FAs Only (User Flair Required)
: "Do you have a memory from childhood that explains your attachment style?"
20 posts
#3
CHANGE ME!
: "help, i genuinely can't reach out to people"
11 posts
#4
Trauma Dump
: "My heart aches"
9 posts
#5
Vent (FAs Only)
: "I feel sick sending an apology."
7 posts
#6
Resources / Helpful Tips
: "6 things you should avoid doing after breaking up"
3 posts
#7
Success Story
: "Is there ever a "come to jesus moment" for passing the threshold to feeling more secure in a romantic relationship?"
1 post
#8
Question / advice
: "Can FA/disorganized attachment show up as anxious with romantic partners but strongly avoidant with parents? What are the most effective ways to heal?"
1 post
#9
Need advice
: "How do I (20F) stop being heavily emotionally dependent on my partner (21M)?"
1 post
Member Growth in r/Disorganized_Attach
Yearly
+9k members(63.3%)
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Last updated: August 14, 2026