r/Disorganized_Attach
24k members
r/Disorganized_Attach is a subreddit with 24k members. The most common kinds of discussions are advice requests and pain & anger, and the community frequently discusses struggling, attachment, breakup, fearful avoidant, and friendship.
A safe space for those with the disorganized attachment (FA) style, also known as fearful avoidant or anxious-avoidant.
Popular Themes in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Advice Requests
: "Do you have a memory from childhood that explains your attachment style?"
21 posts
#2
Pain & Anger
: "Does anyone else feel almost disgusted by being emotionally close to people, even when you trust them?"
7 posts
Popular Topics in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Struggling
13 posts
#2
Attachment
: "HELP My experience avoidant Attachment (Female ver)"
12 posts
#3
Breakup
: "How to cope up with the ex that you could never fully forget?"
11 posts
#4
Fearful Avoidant
: "How do I know if I truly need to end a relationship or if I'm just deactivating?"
11 posts
#5
Friendship
5 posts
#6
Healing
: "Can FA/disorganized attachment show up as anxious with romantic partners but strongly avoidant with parents? What are the most effective ways to heal?"
5 posts
#7
Relationship
5 posts
#8
Deactivation
: "Feel like no therapist can help with my Deactivation. I feel so alone with this."
5 posts
#9
Avoidant
4 posts
#10
Ex
: "How to cope up with the Ex that you could never fully forget?"
3 posts
Flair Used in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Advice (Other than therapy)
: "I hate being the reason I cant have the person I want"
53 posts
#2
FAs Only (User Flair Required)
: "Do you have a memory from childhood that explains your attachment style?"
29 posts
#3
Vent (FAs Only)
: "Being FA is genuinely so lonely"
27 posts
#4
CHANGE ME!
: "Object permanence- nothing changes but I become convinced they’ve changed their mind?"
18 posts
#5
Resources / Helpful Tips
: "The feeling that nothing is enough"
15 posts
#6
Trauma Dump
: "Regardless of what happens I will be fine"
11 posts
#7
Success Story
: "Is there ever a "come to jesus moment" for passing the threshold to feeling more secure in a romantic relationship?"
4 posts
#8
Advice/experience
: "Push/Pull Dynamics, Sabotaging Relationships & Wanting to Be Forgiven"
1 post
#9
HELP!
: "I met someone new and something got triggered inside me"
1 post
#10
Happy
: "Managed to sit with and through it this time around"
1 post
Member Growth in r/Disorganized_Attach
Yearly
+9k members(58.5%)
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Last updated: October 7, 2026