r/Disorganized_Attach
22k members
r/Disorganized_Attach is a subreddit with 22k members. The most common kinds of discussions are advice requests and pain & anger, and the community frequently discusses struggling, attachment, breakup, relationship, and avoidant.
A safe space for those with the disorganized attachment (FA) style, also known as fearful avoidant or anxious-avoidant.
Popular Themes in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Advice Requests
: "I don’t want to do the work anymore."
17 posts
#2
Pain & Anger
: "Ruminating over someone who wronged me"
7 posts
Popular Topics in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Struggling
13 posts
#2
Attachment
6 posts
#3
Breakup
5 posts
#4
Relationship
5 posts
#5
Avoidant
4 posts
#6
Attachment Style
3 posts
#7
Anxious
2 posts
#8
Friendship
2 posts
#9
Healing
2 posts
#10
Contact
1 post
Flair Used in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Advice (Other than therapy)
: "Attracted to men who make me feel like a nuisance/inconvenience"
81 posts
#2
FAs Only (User Flair Required)
: "Any FAs in long-term relationships?"
25 posts
#3
Vent (FAs Only)
: "I don’t want to do the work anymore."
19 posts
#4
CHANGE ME!
: "I hate this feeling"
14 posts
#5
Trauma Dump
: "Why do I keep getting attached to emotionally unavailable people? Could my childhood be the reason?"
8 posts
#6
Success Story
: "Finally realizing my most debilitating core wound"
6 posts
#7
Resources / Helpful Tips
: "Anyone in here watched the movie Obsession?"
4 posts
#8
feedback needed
: "EMDR and EFT for fearful-avoidant attachment style?"
1 post
#9
Survey
: "Seeking Participants for an online survey on Personality, Close Relationships, and Attitudes towards Mental Health Problems."
1 post
#10
Advice (Mixed with venting)
: "I accidentally lovebombed my girlfriend but not in the traditional sense"
1 post
Member Growth in r/Disorganized_Attach
Yearly
+9k members(66.3%)
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Last updated: July 21, 2026