r/Disorganized_Attach
22k members
r/Disorganized_Attach is a subreddit with 22k members. The most common kinds of discussions are advice requests and pain & anger, and the community frequently discusses avoidant, relationship, attachment, anxious, and breakup.
A safe space for those with the disorganized attachment (FA) style, also known as fearful avoidant or anxious-avoidant.
Popular Themes in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Advice Requests
: "How to Stop Viewing Relationships as a Competition for Power"
23 posts
#2
Pain & Anger
: "I hate people who say love yourself"
11 posts
Popular Topics in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Avoidant
: "Clingy men bring out my Avoidant side and Avoidant men bring out my clingy side"
78 posts
#2
Relationship
: "Regret and sadness after breaking off a healthy Relationship"
60 posts
#3
Attachment
: "Gratitude for this Attachment style — It protected me"
46 posts
#4
Anxious
: "The painful truth about Anxious attachment"
27 posts
#5
Breakup
: "Feeling guilty about wanting to be no contact after Breakup."
24 posts
#6
Attachment Style
: "My (31M) disorganized Attachment Style is ruining my dating life"
18 posts
#7
Feelings
: "FAs, if you hurt someone's Feelings and they wanted to express how your actions made them feel (especially while you're in deactivation longer than usual), how would you want that person to approach you and express themselves in a way that didn't push you into further deactivation?"
14 posts
#8
Struggling
11 posts
#9
Anxiety
: "Help? Nausea and wanting to throw up from talking stage Anxiety"
9 posts
#10
Trust
: "It's hard for me to continue to Trust people when you give them an opportunity and they fumble it"
8 posts
Flair Used in r/Disorganized_Attach
#1
Advice (Other than therapy)
: "Clingy men bring out my avoidant side and avoidant men bring out my clingy side"
85 posts
#2
Vent (FAs Only)
: "my mind demonizes people so much when there's distance."
33 posts
#3
FAs Only (User Flair Required)
: "Deactivation after getting hurt"
24 posts
#4
CHANGE ME!
: "Does anyone else instantly spiral when their partner’s communication changes even slightly?"
22 posts
#5
Resources / Helpful Tips
: "Gratitude for this attachment style — It protected me"
17 posts
#6
Trauma Dump
: "Are you a snooper?"
8 posts
#7
Success Story
: "I've made progress I think!"
6 posts
#8
Vent
: "I don’t know what to do anymore"
1 post
#9
Advice
: "How do you know when you're healed enough?"
1 post
#10
FA ?
: "idk if im FA or just have high standards"
1 post
Member Growth in r/Disorganized_Attach
Yearly
+9k members(67.5%)
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Last updated: June 29, 2026