/r/Fencesitter/

r/Fencesitter

90k members
r/Fencesitter is a subreddit with 90k members. The community frequently discusses fencesitter, decision, kids, fencesitting, and relationship, and the most common flair used is reflections, anxiety, questions, childfree, and parenting.
A safe place for those who aren't sure whether they want to have kids, or not. Post and share stories for both sides, questions you may have, and anything else you can think of (applicable to the subject at hand).

Popular Topics in r/Fencesitter

#1

Fencesitter

50 posts
#2

Decision

34 posts
#3

Kids

22 posts
#4

Fencesitting

18 posts
#5

Relationship

12 posts
#6

Children

11 posts
#7

Partner

11 posts
#8

Hate

9 posts
#9

Feelings

9 posts
#10

Fence

8 posts

Flair Used in r/Fencesitter

#1
Reflections
: "Fence sitting turned out to be the greatest gift"
27 posts
#2
Anxiety
: "Sad about how my friend is describing her cat now after baby"
19 posts
#3
Questions
: "I genuinely don’t understand the “I can’t even go to the toilet” experience"
17 posts
#4
Childfree
: "Four years later: an update"
10 posts
#5
Parenting
: "Am i missing something?"
7 posts
#6
Q&A
: "Anyone else confused because of how different they feel DAY to DAY?"
4 posts
#7
AMA
: "Off the fence: From anti-natalist to having a planned one year old."
3 posts
#8
Pregnancy
: "Pregnant, scared and unsure I want to be a parent."
1 post
#9
Introductions
: "Literally a FenceSitter"
1 post
#10
Reading
: ""Staying childfree""
1 post

Member Growth in r/Fencesitter

Yearly
+15k members(19.5%)

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Last updated: August 10, 2026