r/Fencesitter is a subreddit with 92k members. The community frequently discusses fencesitter, decision, kids, fencesitting, and relationship, and the most common flair used is questions, reflections, anxiety, childfree, and q&a.
A safe place for those who aren't sure whether they want to have kids, or not. Post and share stories for both sides, questions you may have, and anything else you can think of (applicable to the subject at hand).
Popular Topics in r/Fencesitter
#1
Fencesitter
50 posts
#2
Decision
34 posts
#3
Kids
22 posts
#4
Fencesitting
18 posts
#5
Relationship
12 posts
#6
Children
11 posts
#7
Partner
11 posts
#8
Hate
9 posts
#9
Feelings
9 posts
#10
Fence
8 posts
Flair Used in r/Fencesitter
#1
Questions
: "I genuinely don’t understand the “I can’t even go to the toilet” experience"
30 posts
#2
Reflections
: "I hate that the things that would make me an amazing parent are the same reasons I don’t want to have a child"
22 posts
#3
Anxiety
: "I finally got off the fence... and then back on thanks to climate change and AI"
19 posts
#4
Childfree
: "Babysat my friend's kids for 3 days and somehow came home more confused about wanting kids"
13 posts
#5
Q&A
: "Previous fencesitter for a decade, now mother of 2. AMA"
5 posts
#6
Parenting
: "A lurker point of view, off the fence and 6 months in"
3 posts
#7
Pregnancy
: "pregnant at 40 and deeply regretting it"
2 posts
#8
AMA
: "Former fencesitter who did AMAs at 2 and 15 months. Daughter just turned 2.5 years old so I’m back! Ask me anything."
2 posts
#9
Introductions
: "Literally a FenceSitter"
1 post
#10
Reading
: ""Staying childfree""
1 post
Member Growth in r/Fencesitter
Yearly
+16k members(21.2%)
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Last updated: September 13, 2026