r/Fencesitter is a subreddit with 93k members. The community frequently discusses fencesitter, decision, kids, fencesitting, and relationship, and the most common flair used is questions, anxiety, reflections, parenting, and meta.
A safe place for those who aren't sure whether they want to have kids, or not. Post and share stories for both sides, questions you may have, and anything else you can think of (applicable to the subject at hand).
Popular Topics in r/Fencesitter
#1
Fencesitter
50 posts
#2
Decision
34 posts
#3
Kids
22 posts
#4
Fencesitting
18 posts
#5
Relationship
12 posts
#6
Children
11 posts
#7
Partner
11 posts
#8
Hate
9 posts
#9
Feelings
9 posts
#10
Fence
8 posts
Flair Used in r/Fencesitter
#1
Questions
: "Question for parents off the fence - how comparable is parenthood to per ownership?"
14 posts
#2
Anxiety
: "Why does it feel cruel to subject a being to human life"
12 posts
#3
Reflections
: "Cornell (5)7"
7 posts
#4
Parenting
: "I was a fencesitter who leaned no. It took me five years to start enjoying being a dad"
1 post
#5
Meta
: "am I missing a biological clock?"
1 post
#6
Pregnancy
: "Im 20 and dont know if I want to keep my baby"
1 post
#7
Childfree
: "We had the talk again"
1 post
Member Growth in r/Fencesitter
Yearly
+17k members(21.7%)
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Last updated: October 16, 2026