r/actuallesbians is a subreddit with 677k members. The community frequently discusses lesbian, looking for a, struggling, relationship, and dating, and they frequently recommend/review sapphic, lesbian book, and perfume, and the most common flair used is question, venting, support, link, and image.
/r/actuallesbians — a place for cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, anyone in the LGBT+ community, or anyone else interested! We're not a militant or exclusive group, feel free to join up!
Popular Topics in r/actuallesbians
#1
Lesbian
89 posts
#2
Looking For A
43 posts
#3
Struggling
39 posts
#4
Relationship
36 posts
#5
Dating
26 posts
#6
Tired
20 posts
#7
Hate
19 posts
#8
Sapphic
19 posts
#9
Struggles
13 posts
#10
Struggle
13 posts
Products Discussed in r/actuallesbians
Sapphic
98 reviews
#1
Girli
4.0★ from 5 reviews
#2
Tamsyn Muir
5.0★ from 4 reviews
#3
King Princess
4.3★ from 3 reviews
Lesbian Book
81 reviews
#1
Casey McQuiston
5.0★ from 4 reviews
#2
Haley Cass
4.8★ from 4 reviews
#3
Kelly Quindlen
4.7★ from 3 reviews
Perfume
34 reviews
#1
Giorgio Armani
4.7★ from 3 reviews
#2
Maison Margiela
5.0★ from 3 reviews
#3
Yves Saint Laurent
5.0★ from 2 reviews
Flair Used in r/actuallesbians
#1
Question
: "As a lesbian, are you more attracted to girly girls or goth/alt girls?"
18 posts
#2
Venting
: "22F, Desperate to Explore My Attraction to Women"
8 posts
#3
Support
: "she says she feels obligated to call me"
7 posts
#4
Link
: "Not sure whether to describe myself as more masc/fem/middle ground term."
6 posts
#5
Image
: "NGL, this is my kind of cafe."
3 posts
#6
Text
: "Finding straight scenes off putting?"
3 posts
#7
Satire/Humor
: "OK which one of you is this 🤭"
2 posts
#8
News
: "Yesterday, I introduced the danger. Today, I’m showing you what’s at stake. | My GL Game | Day 3 of Steam Next Fest |"
1 post
#9
TW
: "Is anyone else disgusted by male genitalia? (esp. when you‘ve been with men before)"
1 post
#10
Mod Post
: "Thursday Daily Chat Thread"
1 post
Member Growth in r/actuallesbians
Yearly
+91k members(15.6%)
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Last updated: October 22, 2026