r/AdultChildren is a subreddit with 74k members. The most common kinds of discussions are pain & anger and advice requests, and the community frequently discusses family, parent, alcoholic, struggling, and family relationships.
"Adult Children" of Alcoholics (or ACOA) refers to those raised by alcoholic or otherwise dysfunctional caregivers.
Adult Children in recovery strive to go from relying on reactions learned in childhood to forming new habits suited to adult life. Recovery is an ongoing process with many paths and detours and side trips. Recovering from childhood issues can be a lifetime endeavor, but healing IS possible.
This is not an ask reddit or advice reddit. This is a recovery community.
Popular Themes in r/AdultChildren
#1
Pain & Anger
: "My dad just got a DUI, and it turns out his 30 years of sobriety is a lie and he was never sober"
51 posts
#2
Advice Requests
: "Raised by a violent, alcoholic father and a deaf mother. I have two degrees, but I’m mentally stuck in the childhood home I never truly escaped. How do I reshape my identity? UK"
15 posts
Popular Topics in r/AdultChildren
#1
Family
: "I am happy and thriving and feel such immense peace and fulfillment with my immediate Family (husband and kids). But anxious, stressed, miserable, and unhappy when I'm near siblings and parents. I feel like I can only thrive not having them in my life. Anyone else feel that way?"
59 posts
#2
Parent
: "What moment made you realize your Parent would never choose you?"
48 posts
#3
Alcoholic
: "Anyone else feel terrified they'll become an Alcoholic one day?"
40 posts
#4
Struggling
: "Shutting down after making a "mistake""
36 posts
#5
Family Relationships
: "I still hate my sober parents"
36 posts
#6
Mother
: "My Mother (62) passed away from cirrhosis that we (her 3 children) didn’t know she had, and I still have so many questions."
27 posts
#7
Father
: "Raised by a violent, alcoholic Father and a deaf mother. I have two degrees, but I’m mentally stuck in the childhood home I never truly escaped. How do I reshape my identity? UK"
27 posts
#8
Alcoholic Parent
: "Who has gone no contact with their Alcoholic Parent?"
18 posts
#9
Recovery
: "Did any of you go on to find healthy people to be around after being raised by an alcoholic?"
15 posts
#10
Grief
: "Quiet Grief"
15 posts
Flair Used in r/AdultChildren
#1
Vent
: "Reflexologist knew my mom was an alcoholic right away - a dark humor story."
51 posts
#2
Looking for Advice
: "27M failure to launch. How to turn this around?"
31 posts
#3
Discussion
: "No one warned me that healing would feel like this."
14 posts
#4
Success
: "Parenting a child with stage IV Cancer while maintaining sobriety."
9 posts
#5
Words of Wisdom
: "“The impossible task of caring for ageing parents who did not care for you: ‘There’s a lot of reliving old triggers’”"
4 posts
Member Growth in r/AdultChildren
Yearly
+8k members(12.5%)
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Last updated: June 23, 2026