r/actuallesbians is a subreddit with 640k members. The community frequently discusses lesbian, looking for a, struggling, relationship, and dating, and they frequently recommend/review sapphic, lesbian book, and perfume, and the most common flair used is image, question, link, venting, and support.
/r/actuallesbians — a place for cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, anyone in the LGBT+ community, or anyone else interested! We're not a militant or exclusive group, feel free to join up!
Popular Topics in r/actuallesbians
#1
Lesbian
89 posts
#2
Looking For A
43 posts
#3
Struggling
39 posts
#4
Relationship
36 posts
#5
Dating
26 posts
#6
Tired
20 posts
#7
Hate
19 posts
#8
Sapphic
19 posts
#9
Struggles
13 posts
#10
Struggle
13 posts
Products Discussed in r/actuallesbians
Sapphic
98 reviews
#1
Girli
4.0★ from 5 reviews
#2
Tamsyn Muir
5.0★ from 4 reviews
#3
King Princess
4.3★ from 3 reviews
Lesbian Book
81 reviews
#1
Casey McQuiston
5.0★ from 4 reviews
#2
Haley Cass
4.8★ from 4 reviews
#3
Kelly Quindlen
4.7★ from 3 reviews
Perfume
34 reviews
#1
Giorgio Armani
4.7★ from 3 reviews
#2
Maison Margiela
5.0★ from 3 reviews
#3
Yves Saint Laurent
5.0★ from 2 reviews
Flair Used in r/actuallesbians
#1
Image
: "am I being too picky abt this bc this lowk pissed me off"
47 posts
#2
Question
: "I've noticed most trans lesbians are T4T, and most cis lesbians only want to date cis lesbians. Is there a reason neither side really approaches the other?"
36 posts
#3
Link
: "Should I just let this be?"
18 posts
#4
Venting
: "We were supposed to go on a date on Tuesday... That's obviously not happening"
15 posts
#5
Support
: "I recently realized I'm a lesbian"
9 posts
#6
Satire/Humor
: "Panam being straight is devastating"
7 posts
#7
TW
: "My first WLW breakup got worse"
3 posts
#8
News
: "I have something to announce"
2 posts
#9
Blog
: "Today’s #30DaysofPride is the mother of Lesbian Chic k.d. Lang!!!"
2 posts
#10
Text
: "No way they weren’t gay for each other."
2 posts
Member Growth in r/actuallesbians
Yearly
+69k members(12.2%)
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Last updated: June 9, 2026