r/actuallesbians is a subreddit with 678k members. The community frequently discusses lesbian, looking for a, struggling, relationship, and dating, and they frequently recommend/review sapphic, lesbian book, and perfume, and the most common flair used is question, image, venting, support, and text.
/r/actuallesbians — a place for cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, anyone in the LGBT+ community, or anyone else interested! We're not a militant or exclusive group, feel free to join up!
Popular Topics in r/actuallesbians
#1
Lesbian
89 posts
#2
Looking For A
43 posts
#3
Struggling
39 posts
#4
Relationship
36 posts
#5
Dating
26 posts
#6
Tired
20 posts
#7
Hate
19 posts
#8
Sapphic
19 posts
#9
Struggles
13 posts
#10
Struggle
13 posts
Products Discussed in r/actuallesbians
Sapphic
98 reviews
#1
Girli
4.0★ from 5 reviews
#2
Tamsyn Muir
5.0★ from 4 reviews
#3
King Princess
4.3★ from 3 reviews
Lesbian Book
81 reviews
#1
Casey McQuiston
5.0★ from 4 reviews
#2
Haley Cass
4.8★ from 4 reviews
#3
Kelly Quindlen
4.7★ from 3 reviews
Perfume
34 reviews
#1
Giorgio Armani
4.7★ from 3 reviews
#2
Maison Margiela
5.0★ from 3 reviews
#3
Yves Saint Laurent
5.0★ from 2 reviews
Flair Used in r/actuallesbians
#1
Question
: "What unusual things make you feel deeply loved?"
11 posts
#2
Image
: "diva down"
4 posts
#3
Venting
: "Am I wrong for feeling grossed out by what my coworker said or am I overreacting"
4 posts
#4
Support
: "I have no game and only know how to act platonic not because idk if a person wants me to flirt but because I have no idea how to switch from friendly to flirty. I only know how to flirt if someone makes the first move? Help a loser lesbian out 😩"
4 posts
#5
Text
: "Finally worked out im a guy so im leaving"
2 posts
#6
Link
: "36 masc female looking for femme. State: SC"
2 posts
#7
TW
: "I love my girlfriend so much. She has completely changed my life inadvertently."
1 post
Member Growth in r/actuallesbians
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+92k members(15.6%)
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Last updated: November 7, 2026